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Post by altoclarinets on Mar 31, 2008 19:39:43 GMT -5
My director tells the whole band I'm crazy, OCD AND insane. IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE BAND. But he's God so there's nothing I can do about it. Do you think you might get any freshmen trumpets? Or has the middle school ended its band program/ closed? Mayyyybee you should assskkk him. You've been doing a jolly good bit of assuming (he'll make me switch back, I know my junior year I have to play trumpet because three of the trumpets will be graduated,the only logical conclusion I can draw is my director only permanently switches people that suck at there old instrument. I guess I don't? ) Yes, I would sit down and have a talk with him. My bd (all things aforementioned aside) is a very approachable person and everyone knows they can talk to him about any issues they may be having with band, I don't know if yours is like that, but go ahead and try.
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Post by mthsbandrocks on Apr 4, 2008 21:30:05 GMT -5
If I were you, I'd just keep on talking to him, as friends, you know? Since he doesn't know that you like him, it would be awkward to bring it up right at the moment when he has (temporarily) renounced girlfriends. See what happens. You just don't want to scare him off or something. well i talk to him every day because he sits by me in band. But i donno if im getting the "i like you" vibes. cause he asked a junior girl to prom.
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Post by brassgirl1023 on Apr 5, 2008 4:59:08 GMT -5
ohhhhh prom...
anyway.
so i plan on attending dartmouthhhh. [yes i plan things early] i know about the college and everything but is it a good idea??? lol
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Post by heepwah2you04 on Jan 4, 2009 1:42:38 GMT -5
All my best friends wanna do is watch star wars talk about star wars pretend were the people in star wars etc etc etc. I can't talk about anything else! WE ARE SOPHMORES IN HIGHSCHOOL WE ARE TOO OLD TO BE PRETENDING TO BE THE PEOPLE IN MOVIES!I only like to do that in musicals,sometimes, because you get to sing the songs and what not. I really really just wanna find some new friends at this point. They no I don't like Star Wars because I never join in there conversations about it and when we watch it [late at night] I usally far asleep. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
-no offence to star wars was meant in this post-
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2009 23:43:36 GMT -5
^Embarrass them, perhaps?
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Post by heepwah2you04 on Jan 14, 2009 17:07:40 GMT -5
How do I go about that? ^^ And the boy I like [he use to be my best friend..] has been acting different towards me.A couple weeks ago we started talking like long conversations again about actual topics,but he still dosen't talk to me at school. Well he does but it always feels super rushed. Like,today after school: Him/trumpet:So you have the most pretictable Room ever [for band trip to NY].You,[clarinet friend],[flute friend],and [tenor sax friend]. Me:Duh.Oh who are you roming with? -he told me- Like that isn't pretictable either?
THEN HE TURNED AROUND WITH OUT EVEN RESPONDING BACK TO ME!Then he started talking to someone else.[can't remenber who..]I had to go get my instrument then and leave,but it made me super mad!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2009 23:02:20 GMT -5
Uh... I could use more information, but it sounds like he may have picked up on the fact that you like him and feels awkward around you now. He could also not like you back and is being a bunghole to alienate you and not have to confront you about it. That is, if a girl liked me and I didn't like them back (which is unlikely), I would probably be a bunghole to them to alienate them and avoid confrontation. He may be afraid that a "real" conversation will lead to some odd kind of confession (yeah, guys sometimes think about that too) which he doesn't feel like dealing with.
On a more positive note, he could also like you back and not feel like confronting himself and how he feels. Or he could be under some kind of external pressure to not like you and is being a bunghole to avoid you for that reason.
I would say, get him alone and talk to him then. Don't bring up that he's been alienating you, but try to have a real conversation planned. Something you both feel strongly about (maybe the presidency), but that you won't argue on. Then you might, might, might drop something like "hey, it was good to talk to you again" when one of you has to leave.
That's my completely detached two cents.
In my own life, or lack thereof, I am in a weird situation. I asked a girl out, eh, prematurely, before she was ready, and so we've been in this awkward avoidance stage until yesterday morning, when she was seriously staring at me as I arrived at our bus. I looked her in the eye for a bit, said "can I help you?" and promptly changed the subject (yeah, okay, that was cold and rude, but I was tired and it came off okay). Then today on my bus, we're back to the staring, only now it's sneaky sideways staring.
From what I can gather based on my own rudimentary analysis and that of my compadres, she's thinking about something to do with me, but I'm not sure what. I know I need to talk to her, but a second opinion on why the hell she was staring at me would not go unnoticed.
And spacermase, as usual, could not possibly be more right. In fact, you probably have a better chance with a guy who has recently renounced all relationships (granted you give him some time to recover), because he's probably sick and tired of chasing girls and would like to have one come to him for once.
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Post by Lprdgecko on Jan 22, 2009 17:29:27 GMT -5
Maybe she was staring at you to get your attention?
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Post by Greenepony on Jan 23, 2009 0:44:20 GMT -5
Okay so I'm not sure how much this will be understood since it's kind of particular to swing. I'm feeling rather selfish for even being slightly annoyed bythis but here goes. First off, swing dancing brought my boyfriend and I together, it's our common hobby. When my wonderful boyfriend who I do like dearly, first started pursuing (I suppose that is the best word) me, he would spend a good chunk of swing meetings with me, and would dance with me several times a night. I know I am not even close to being good but I do really like dancing with him, especially since he is such a good lead. However, now that we're secure in our "coupleness" at swing I feel more like the friend that he just happens to kiss every so often, and not the girlfriend. If I'm lucky, I'll dance with him once a night. I know it's expected that we dance with other people sometimes, if he were to dance, say one dance a piece, I'd be more comfortable. However, there are some girls who he'll dance with several times a night. It's not like I never see him, but watching a movie with him is different then dancing with him.
Am I selfish for wanting my boyfriend to go back to what he was like when we started dating just over two months ago in regards to his behavior in public? For being slightly twirked that he dances with other girls more than with me?
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Post by spacermase on Jan 23, 2009 12:37:28 GMT -5
Okay so I'm not sure how much this will be understood since it's kind of particular to swing. I'm feeling rather selfish for even being slightly annoyed bythis but here goes. First off, swing dancing brought my boyfriend and I together, it's our common hobby. When my wonderful boyfriend who I do like dearly, first started pursuing (I suppose that is the best word) me, he would spend a good chunk of swing meetings with me, and would dance with me several times a night. I know I am not even close to being good but I do really like dancing with him, especially since he is such a good lead. However, now that we're secure in our "coupleness" at swing I feel more like the friend that he just happens to kiss every so often, and not the girlfriend. If I'm lucky, I'll dance with him once a night. I know it's expected that we dance with other people sometimes, if he were to dance, say one dance a piece, I'd be more comfortable. However, there are some girls who he'll dance with several times a night. It's not like I never see him, but watching a movie with him is different then dancing with him. Am I selfish for wanting my boyfriend to go back to what he was like when we started dating just over two months ago in regards to his behavior in public? For being slightly twirked that he dances with other girls more than with me? Hmmmm....well, on one hand, swing is fundamentally a social dance, so it's not like it's unusual for people to be swapping partners. On the other hand, yeah, if I had a girlfriend in swing club, I'd definitely be dancing with her more than once per night. Talk to him about it, and make your concerns known. See what he says.
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Post by babette2009 on Jan 24, 2009 23:16:28 GMT -5
I need some advice.
I love my boyfriend. We've been together for over a year and a half and he means the world to me. We've been through alot of stuff together. Unfortunately, with some of the stuff last month, he doesn't really trust me. Well, now I found out that his best friend likes me, a lot. I like his best friend too. My boyfriend is really suspicious of his best friend and I doing something together, even though he has no real reason to be. It's so bad that when the 2 were hanging out and his friend left for a few hours, my boyfriend showed up at my house to make sure his friend wasn't here.
Should the friend and I tell him what's going on? Just in general, what should I/we do?
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Post by heepwah2you04 on Jan 27, 2009 23:45:57 GMT -5
Thanks oscarisamazing. I really don't know anymore so I'm just going to say anything to him about how I feel. Babette I think you should tell the friend.
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Post by yummiebears on Jan 29, 2009 0:32:39 GMT -5
Oscar--- the girl is probably staring at you to see if you are staring back. Its weird, but I do it sometimes.
Babette--- it seems like you are in quite a hole!!! If you like his best friend more than him, my suggestion is to end it. Perhaps (and I don't know the whole story) its turned into a companionship type of love rather than a romance (which happens with most mariages eventually). But it really seems as though your bf does not trust you and is getting jealous (and a tad bit controlling). That is a major problem and red flag in relationships. Talk to your bf about it first. See if you can understand his motives and if you are willing to work things out. If you do end up breaking up, make sure that there is a long break before (if) you start dating his best friend. You and your bf will need time to heal.
Now for my own problems. There is this one girl in my band (she was at masonic, oscar), she and I used to be friends, but now (and all this year... actually since after masonic-- early July) she has been mean to me beyond belief. It is general cattiness of girls but I am the target. I've tried and been extremely nice and patient trying to gain back her friendship but she just hurts me even more. I try not to let it show. Does anyone have any help for stopping general cattiness and deep inexplicable hatreds?
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Post by tinkerbell on Jan 29, 2009 16:05:15 GMT -5
yummiebears--Just say to her that you noticed that she was being mean, and tell her to tell you if she is mad at your or something. It might be hard to do, but it's easier than wondering what's wrong. Sometimes people will just be mean because you let them treat you like that.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2009 18:16:05 GMT -5
Oh shizzle. Does she have red hair and short stature?
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