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Post by Lprdgecko on Mar 15, 2008 10:34:40 GMT -5
Post here if you have something bothering you that you need advice on! I'll go first:
Ok, prom is April 19, roughly a month away. I'm shopping for a dress today, but I don't have a date, and I really don't want to be alone at prom. I was thinking about asking a sax player to go with me, just as friends. However, he's my brother's best friend, he's a sophomore so he might not have fun there, and stuff like that. I'm just torn as to whether or not I should ask him. Because, we're friends and all, but I don't want him to think I want to start going out with him or whatever by asking.
What should I do?
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Post by stickshifty on Mar 15, 2008 11:08:04 GMT -5
^ I would go ahead get a dress and at least go with a big group of girlfriends. (If you want to travel to Memphis, I know THE best place to get one. I doubt you'd want to travel, but it's where I got my black pageant dress.) As far as the boy... why don't you ask your brother to see if he thinks your sax friend would have fun? If he thinks he would, then ask him if he'd like to go as friends because prom is more fun when you have a large group of friends to go with. And if he does go with you, still go out with a big group, and not just the two of you.
My two cents.
edit;; spelling is for winners!
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Post by woodwindchick on Mar 15, 2008 12:40:07 GMT -5
^^ I pretty much agree with the above poster. Prom is a lot of fun in a group. Granted, I went with a date (my boyfriend) but we were in a group most of the time - a group of about ten of us danced in the corner, and we all got our picture taken together. I think I would have had just as much fun if I had gone with the group, I just have the added memory of having a nice time with my boyfriend. I don't see why a sophomore wouldn't have fun - my boyfriend was a freshman, and we had a blast. And a couple of the people in our group brought sophomores, and one guy brought a junior. (Now that I think about it, everyone in the group brought someone younger than them except for one girl.) But I guess it depends on the type of person and whether or not they're going to know anyone else there.
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Post by Lprdgecko on Mar 15, 2008 18:33:27 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice everyone. I may or may not ask him. It just depends on what my friends are doing and if they have plans already or whatever.
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Post by babette2009 on Mar 17, 2008 15:04:00 GMT -5
Since this is the "i need advice" room, I need some!
Anyways, about 9 months ago, my ex-boyfriend and I split up. He was my first "real" relationship, so the break-up was really hard. Even though, not long after the break up, I started dating his best friend. The three of us when through serious hell drama, even though my ex said he was cool with the new relationship. Well, after my ex went to college, he severed ties with me and his "best friend." The only time either of us hear of him is when we learn through the grapevine that he was in town. Neither of us know first hand.
Now, all of a sudden, my ex is trying to become friends with me agian. He hopes i "can forgive him for everything that happened." He's made no effort to become friends agian with my boyfriend, even though he's willing to form the friendship agian, as long as my ex has matured.
I'm unsure of if I should re-form the friendship between me and my ex, or not. Any advice?
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Post by moe on Mar 17, 2008 17:17:20 GMT -5
hm...sounds kinda fishy to me...but maybe i'm looking at the situation wrong. do you think that he still likes you?
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Post by babette2009 on Mar 18, 2008 14:19:56 GMT -5
hm...sounds kinda fishy to me...but maybe i'm looking at the situation wrong. do you think that he still likes you? It's possible...but i don't have a way of know for sure one way or the other without obvious snooping.
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Post by iFrostyflute on Mar 18, 2008 17:16:34 GMT -5
hm...sounds kinda fishy to me...but maybe i'm looking at the situation wrong. do you think that he still likes you? It's possible...but i don't have a way of know for sure one way or the other without obvious snooping. Try unobvious snooping.If it were me, I wouldn't be friends with him again. He turned on you and your bf, and that's ... really, really bad in my book. But if you want to, go ahead and re-form the friendship. Just keep on your toes for anything suspicious.
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Post by babette2009 on Mar 20, 2008 10:37:09 GMT -5
He's trying to get back in touch with both of us know. So, my bf and I are seeing how things play out before either of us decide to fully re-form the friendship.
Thanks for the advice though!
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Post by lightningflute2010 on Mar 21, 2008 13:52:11 GMT -5
I have an issueeee. x.x
Lately, I've been feeling like my friends have been drifting away from me and that they don't want to be around me anymore. I don't know what happened, and I don't know how to confront anyone about it, or even if they notice. I just don't want them to treat me better out of pity, though.
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Post by bariclaribob on Mar 22, 2008 22:13:44 GMT -5
^ That's too bad, lightningflute. I really feel bad for you. But from what I've noticed, friendships wax and wane. During marching band, I hang out with different people than I do during the school, year, and that might be the case with your friends (maybe substituting mb and school for soccer and gymnastics, but you get the point). It could also be that your friends are going through what I call phases. One day, I'll be in a science-y type mood and talk to my science-oriented friends. The next, I'll love English and writing and talk to my friends who love English. And then I'll be all woodwind and not talk to my drumline friends.
It's not your fault. It's not your fault that your friends are out of touch with you right now, and it's not your fault that it bothers you. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, including the part about pity. Maybe you guys won't be best friends anymore (if that was ever the case), but hopefully you won't lose them altogether. ***************************************************************************
I need advice. I'm a sophomore in h.s., and I've gotten a boatload of college info lately. I'm teetering between what I want to do, b/c that will affect where I want to go. On one hand, I want to go into engineering. I'm good at science/math, and I know that you can make a really good salary in that field (half my family are engineers). But I don't know if I'd be any good at it.
On the other hand, I really love music and I want to be a h.s. bd or do music somehow. I'm good at music (but not good enough for performance) and can't imagine living w/o music. I know I could do community band/all-age drum corps if I don't go into music, but i don't know if that would be enough. But I know teachers don't make a lot, and that musicians don't either. My parents always say that the most important thing in a job is how much money you make, and I just don't think a musician/teacher's salary would be enough.
My parents are bugging me and it's driving me CRAZY. Any advice?
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Post by spacermase on Mar 22, 2008 22:45:19 GMT -5
First off, I'd like to say that the idea of this thread is brilliance. Kudos to lprdgecko. I need advice. I'm a sophomore in h.s., and I've gotten a boatload of college info lately. I'm teetering between what I want to do, b/c that will affect where I want to go. On one hand, I want to go into engineering. I'm good at science/math, and I know that you can make a really good salary in that field (half my family are engineers). But I don't know if I'd be any good at it. On the other hand, I really love music and I want to be a h.s. bd or do music somehow. I'm good at music (but not good enough for performance) and can't imagine living w/o music. I know I could do community band/all-age drum corps if I don't go into music, but i don't know if that would be enough. But I know teachers don't make a lot, and that musicians don't either. My parents always say that the most important thing in a job is how much money you make, and I just don't think a musician/teacher's salary would be enough. My parents are bugging me and it's driving me CRAZY. Any advice? Well, here, anyway, there's a trade off with being in the Engineering School. The upside is that you're able to get a relatively high paying job right out of college, which is very unusual. The downside is that majoring in engineering at the undergrad level is an academically brutal experience (again, at least it is here- I can't speak for all universities). So keep that in mind. As for doing music education, you usually can't do much without a Master's/teaching certification, although many colleges offer a five-year plan that bundles your Bachelor's degree with your graduate certification. It's true you won't be making a whole lot of money, though. Really, I'd try to contact both engineering majors and music majors that go to the school you're planning on attending, and ask them about their respective programs. Furthermore, you shouldn't angst as much about having to make a decision just yet- after all, at most universities you don't have to declare your major until the end of your sophomore year. Hope this helps!
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Post by bariclaribob on Mar 23, 2008 17:35:40 GMT -5
^Thanks. I talked to a Music Professor a couple weeks ago, but when I mentioned career choices, he said I was young to be thinking about it. I think it's just that my sis just went off to college and parents are pressuring me, and I feel like I'm being rushed into a decision.
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Post by altoclarinets on Mar 23, 2008 17:42:22 GMT -5
I need advice. I'm a sophomore in h.s., and I've gotten a boatload of college info lately. I'm teetering between what I want to do, b/c that will affect where I want to go. On one hand, I want to go into engineering. I'm good at science/math, and I know that you can make a really good salary in that field (half my family are engineers). But I don't know if I'd be any good at it. On the other hand, I really love music and I want to be a h.s. bd or do music somehow. I'm good at music (but not good enough for performance) and can't imagine living w/o music. I know I could do community band/all-age drum corps if I don't go into music, but i don't know if that would be enough. But I know teachers don't make a lot, and that musicians don't either. My parents always say that the most important thing in a job is how much money you make, and I just don't think a musician/teacher's salary would be enough. My parents are bugging me and it's driving me CRAZY. Any advice? Marry someone rich. No, seriously though, if band is the most important thing in your life, you need to keep doing it! Salary notwithstanding. You can always give private lessons to supplement your income. You play, like 3 instruments, right?
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Post by bariclaribob on Mar 24, 2008 12:38:37 GMT -5
^Only one of them well enough to consider giving lessons! But I appreciate the advice. I don't know, guys. It's so confusing. And then there's my parents. My mom is reading some article to me in the paper about this brilliant violinist who gave up music to be one of the best-respected engineers somewhere. And then Dad, talking about some engineer at his office who loves trumpet and was amazing at it but gave it up for engineering and still gets to play sometimes when he arranges music for his church. I don't know. I wish I didn't have to think about it.
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