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Post by tubachick11 on Aug 11, 2009 22:46:21 GMT -5
I love music and marching, but I hate "marching band". I just don't fit in well with the others. I'm fine socially everywhere else, but this being my third year in this band, I'm still a misfit. I hate it. It's annoying. I can make it through symphonic season, but I hate the bus trips and things along those lines. I've done the hole "attempt making friends/be nice" stuff, but I just don't mesh well... How do I make it through another year?
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Post by spacermase on Aug 12, 2009 9:25:50 GMT -5
Well, I'm about to enter my last marching season ever (*sob*), so I'll tell you what I know.
Throughout college marching band, and even somewhat in high school, I never really fit in socially, either. I mean, in college, I've got plenty of friends in the band, I even joined the band service fraternity, but I've never felt like I was particularly close to any of them. This isn't a slight against them, it's just a result of the fact that I operate on a different level, psychologically, than most people (not necessarily a better one, mind you, just a different one).
However, I will say this: the rush I get when I first come out on to the field during pre-game, in front of 60,000+ people makes it all worth it.
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Post by KUguardgrl13 on Aug 12, 2009 21:21:07 GMT -5
that happened to me in my high school. i didn't fit in well with the rest of the guard except for a few of my close friend whom I'd recruited. luckily, i liked guard enough to not quit. i know there are some kids in my high school who don't participate in marching band, but are in band for the concert season. they just have the option to take a full year of concert band while the kids who march only take 2nd, 3rd and 4th quarter concert and 1st quarter is marching band. if your school requires that you march to be in the band program, then you just have to grin and bear it. there are a number of colleges that require a semester or two of marching band from its music majors.
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Post by 1frodos1 on Aug 17, 2009 13:38:45 GMT -5
i dont fit in well with much of anyone either.In leadership last year everyone was older and wouldnt listen,now everyone is younger and seems to want to "stick it to me" or something.I focus more on intellect than looks so i dont fit in well with my preppy social butterfly section dispite being fairly social.some people just dont like marching season that much, my two cents
1) have some friends join or come whatch you preform
2) look into a youth symphony,matbey you will mesh better their and give you something symphonic to do during marching season or mabey quit band and just do that.
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Post by tubachick11 on Aug 18, 2009 22:46:01 GMT -5
^ Thanks! I was actually planning on auditioning for the local youth symphony. That's a really great idea.
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Post by yummiebears on Sept 5, 2009 0:23:01 GMT -5
I'm in the same situation as you but this is the first year where I've learned to be okay with it. Yes, it hurts to see them all click and get along so well and I am sitting there in the dust but I made the distinction between everyone hating me and me not fitting in; and between the nice people who are my friends and everyone else. Practices may be long, but remember the high that competitions bring and why you are marching-- that makes any practice worth it.
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Post by the_sousabone on Sept 18, 2009 13:13:41 GMT -5
I went to (and I don't exaggerate when I say this) an all athlete elementary. What I always found is: If you're the one that's off in the corner, look in the other corners. I had 2 friends in elementary school. And still to today they're my best friends. they just so happen to be the other two band kids from my school.
If it's the marching you love then do it. Don't let the atmosphere or lack of communication deter you. I've played in several ensembles where I absolutely hated the people, but the music was good enough that it kept me coming back. like I said before. Look for that other person that seems to be just like you. Chances are you'll get along.
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Post by piccolo + ADD = fun on Oct 5, 2009 16:39:41 GMT -5
Yeah, I'm going through the same right now. my friends in high school band were mostly juniors or not in band. Now in college, it's really no different. I'm still being shunned by my section, but now the saxes welcome me in Alto-land when I'm shunned in flute-land.
I myself am partially to blame since I'm extremely shy and have a bit too much of a warped sense of humor for most people. It's one of those you either are attracted to my oddness or mildly perturbed and wary within ten minutes or attracted if you take the time to get to know me, which most don't. In short, I'm a bit of an acquired taste hahaha...
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