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Post by 11clarinet on May 25, 2009 20:35:26 GMT -5
Our band has always had problems with band couples. On the bus, they are inappropriate and don't respect our band director. the Director will threaten them and gives everyone the lecture, and yet they continue to act inappropriately. And before a performance we are all supposed to be quiet and focus on the show....but when they are only think about their significant other....how are they thinking about the show? At the competitions our band seems to have a bad reputation when sitting in the stands...the couples are acting inappropriate and making us look bad. Maybe i should just talk to next years Drum Major and the band Director. Does your band have problems like this? What would you do?
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2009 20:56:55 GMT -5
Any time the drum majors see a couple acting inappropriate, they should gently remind them; if gentle reminders fail, they should escalate the warnings. Multiple offenders should be permanently separated.
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Post by 11clarinet on May 25, 2009 20:59:11 GMT -5
yeah, its just that last season, the drum major didn't do anything about it...but hopefully nxt season this drum major will try to stop it.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2009 21:01:52 GMT -5
If the drum major won't, find someone who will. If you can't, talk to the BD; if he lacks the assertion to split up couples, pester him until he says something that you can interpret as "you do it."
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Post by hansel2011 on May 26, 2009 15:31:22 GMT -5
Oh yea. A lot of inapropriate things with band couples. Some I will not mention becasue it is rated X...yea it has been that bad before. I am not over exagerating. But it has gotten to the point where on bus rides we always take two buses and boys on one and girls on the other. When we go on over night trips, boys aree on one floor and girls on another. Boys and girls are not allowed on the same floor. If they want to see each other you have to be in the hotel lobby which our bd sits until curfew. And even after curfew, all the chaperones sit in the middle of the hallway and guard the rooms to make sure no one gets out. No holding hands, no hugs...nothing like that.
We pretty much have it under control now but if it keeps on happening...talk to the dm or your bd becasue the bd will do something about it. If not, do it yourself. Things like that make the band, school, your bd and yourself look bad. It should not be happening but it does.
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Post by let1troll on May 26, 2009 17:12:40 GMT -5
We don't have that much trouble with that around here. Our band doesn't spend a lot of time together, so no one overreacts to couples being together and we are all friends. I am currently a part of a "band couple", and I personally think that it is wrong that everyone should have to suffer from what two people have done. We have had troubles with that kind of thing, like hugging after parades and sitting together in the stands, but none of it is overdoing it. Many people overreact to people even holding hands when we are without our jackets and uniforms/3rd quarter. No one knows what school you are from, and it doesn't look bad. I can understand it being very disrespectful, and I don't do that kind of thing, my boyfriend and I don't believe in that kind of thing, but I also don't think that EVERYONE should get penalized for a couple of other peoples mistakes. I understand kissing/laying on each other in the stands when you are in full uniform, but if you are simply sitting together eating/holding hands in the stands 3rd quarter, I don't think it's right to get yelled at/called a "sleeper" when you really aren't doing anything wrong. Sorry, that's exactly what happened to my BF and I, and we weren't doing anything, and now the person that said that is a Field Commander. I wasn't meaning to be so blunt or mean. . .
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Post by trittico on May 26, 2009 18:57:44 GMT -5
Here we just sort of let sleeping dogs lie. Course, get caught smooching on the bus ride back home and you're getting a ribbing from your bandmates, but we don't see it as a big deal.
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Post by $@M1K1N$! on May 29, 2009 19:40:32 GMT -5
We don't have much trouble with that around here, but I AM in jh and I DO live in a state that is 66% LDS and in the town I live in it's about 89% so..... but still, our bd doesn't like it when the few innapropriate couples, he tells them to stop and they just stop... I'm not sure that helped so..... you've probably heard this, but you could round up some people and kindly ask them to stop, or you could talk to your bd or dm. that's all i can think of.
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Post by Euphoniums PWN on Jun 10, 2009 22:45:54 GMT -5
My band director has a "no touching" policy that basically takes care of any problem you can imagine - if the item/person in question is not yours/you, don't touch it. We don't usually have problems with couples, but occasionally there's a few bad apples that will go off and do things I can't mention here.
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Post by 290Piika on Jun 12, 2009 1:27:39 GMT -5
There are people who are...promiscuous, but they generally have a bad reputation for making out and hugging suggestively anyway.
The band moms don't like them much. xD But I don't think it's ever really been a problem as far as concentration goes.
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Post by altosax4life on Aug 3, 2009 18:57:43 GMT -5
Oh yea. A lot of inapropriate things with band couples. Some I will not mention becasue it is rated X...yea it has been that bad before. I am not over exagerating. But it has gotten to the point where on bus rides we always take two buses and boys on one and girls on the other. When we go on over night trips, boys aree on one floor and girls on another. Boys and girls are not allowed on the same floor. If they want to see each other you have to be in the hotel lobby which our bd sits until curfew. And even after curfew, all the chaperones sit in the middle of the hallway and guard the rooms to make sure no one gets out. No holding hands, no hugs...nothing like that. We pretty much have it under control now but if it keeps on happening...talk to the dm or your bd becasue the bd will do something about it. If not, do it yourself. Things like that make the band, school, your bd and yourself look bad. It should not be happening but it does. my band would have a HUGE issue if they put in that rule. Because just about EVERYONE hugs and acts really affectionate to each other. Personally i don't see anything wrong with cuddling on the bus. But if they're sitting there sucking face then it's just...ew... Something my friends do if one of the couples (me included, because everyone needs a gentle reminder sometimes) is scream something like "Hey get out of each other's pants." Or "Dudes keep it G." Some might consider that public humiliation but if you're not supposed to be doing something sometimes you need it. As a last resort I'd go to the BD.
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Post by thatcrazyguardgirl on Oct 4, 2009 15:16:24 GMT -5
i mean, my band has couples. im part of one. i think its kinda funny cuz the directors are like "were all one big weird family" and were like "INCEST!!". but we know when to stop. and dont do anything innopropiate in public at contests or football games or anything. our band directors are pretty much like "as long as you dont get each other pregnant its cool"
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Post by spacermase on Oct 4, 2009 23:22:16 GMT -5
In high school, band couples were a regular occurrence, but at least to my memory, there was never much trouble with inappropriate behavior- nothing ever happened in uniform because there simply *wasn't* time to do anything, and otherwise most people stayed within the bounds of appropriateness, or exceeded those bounds discreetly enough that no one noticed. I did get some ribbing from my bd once my sophomore year, which, in retrospect, was quite deserved.
In college, it isn't much of an issue since 1) band couples are surprisingly rare, and 2) we're pretty much all adults anyway. Plus, there is a very, very strong ethos about representing the school when we're in uniform, so people tend towards self-discipline.
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Post by KUguardgrl13 on Oct 11, 2009 17:22:04 GMT -5
yeah, that's same as me. there just wasn't time to be a cuddly in high school band except on the bus when no one cared (our band couples never stepped over the line into x-rated territory in public). in college, we've been told to act professional in uniform. plus, if your significant other is in a different section you can't sit with them anyway.
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Post by twirlgirl on Oct 14, 2009 17:04:08 GMT -5
We have pda rules. They are easily broken on the bus it seems... I shouldn't say much i've had my fun breakin the rules... BUT... now i realize it is completly gross to other people! Last away competition i was sitting with my friend in the back seat and the people across from us were making out it was horrible! They were all over each other! We have a strike policy and that will definately get you a strike. The head chaperone went to check the back to see if anything was happening and they got busted. This should be the guys 3rd strike cuz he got kicked out of the local acorn during band camp. But he is still here!!! drives us insaine if it was anyone else we would be kicked out!
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