way too much time together

[*CG*Cap.]

i hate band sometimes b/c for a group thats supposed to be one we have alot of cliques like you got your dramatic people the cool people the normal people the funny people the colorguard if they don't hate each other drum line if they don't hate each other then the people who are like the not so best people in band or freaks is what we call them in my band. i used to be friends with like these four people they are way over dramatic and the guard we have like three juniors sophomore and a middle schooler and like thats click right there sometime the middle schooler joins and the sophomore is so immature sometimes when she says things it just doesnt make sense i mean we don't be mean or anything we just don't say nothing drum line and colorguard fight oh and the other clique is the people who are best in band and know they are and trys to be the hero. its so annoying bc we spend time together way too much

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I'm surprised this hasn't been brought up before. It's true that band geeks spend a lot of time together, and people who spend that much time together get on each other's nerves. There isn't much can be done about the band as a whole. I realize this is heresy but my solution is to spend time with people outside the band. Not a whole lot, just come up for air every once in awhile. Hope I am helpful.

Also, it helps to keep in mind that nobody can force you to be be chummy with your band. There are lots of very successful musicians who show up to rehearsal, play the music, and leave, and have no social ties to their band. I don't recommend that technique, but moderation in all things.

[bandnerd525]

i had friends in pretty much every social circle in high school. i knew a ton of the band, but then knew a ton of other people that werent so it wasnt always just band all the time

[stickshifty]

Yeah I'm surprised this hasn't been brought up before either.

Usually when there's too much band drama going on, all my band friends agree to not talk about band. At all. And if they do, then I have my equestrian team friends that I can hang out with.

[fluttietuttie]

We have cliques in my band, but we love seeing each other. All of us can't get enough. Like, even though we have cliques and stuff, we still get along with each other. We just spend more time with our "group" then with others. I try to be friends with everyone though. I hate cliques.

[piccolo + ADD = fun]

The only time I think people in our band really ever get sick of each other is during overnight band trips. Mostly because you have to see them all the time, especially if you're rooming with them. Then people usually take a week long break from each other when we get back and everything's back to normal shortly after.

Cliques exist in our band, but it's mostly in the underclassmen you see it. Seniors don't really stick with one group. We like to move around alot. =]

[$@M1K1N$!]

i absolutely agree about having cliques i band. everyone outside of band (from who i've talked to) thinks we always love eachother and don't have subgroups like every other clique. i mean, we've got the popular people (flutes) and we've got the weird ones, the normals ones... the list goes on and on! but the only time we actually don't get along is on bad days when we really suck.

[gibson]

Everyone is going to have cliques in their own band.
But it also has to do with the size of the band. I mean, my band has cliques too, but we're a 28 member band. And no color guard (so I have no advice on that, although, we are getting one next year, but I'm graduating.). Anyway, a band of 300 is going to have more cliques more drama, and more people that always don't get along. (I have friends in bigger bands, so I know a little.)

Anyway, my band is real close but can also have drama sometimes.

It just depends on the size, that's all it is. There's really nothing you can do about it. It's always going to be there.

[1frodos1]

I also suggest having friends outside the band.The drama kids usually get along well with band kids as long as you respect each others form of expression.Plus drama kids are usually more dramatic so they always help to make my band drama seem more normal or less of a big deal.There is also nothing saying you have to involve yourself in the drama, when i dont want to deal with it i just tell my friends that im not going to deal with band drama and either change the subject or sit back and listen, i can be aware of whats happening without spreading rumors taking sides.
Take a look at the people not just the group they belong to if they are people you would be friends with dont let their clique stop you.Most of these people are often different when not in band and you may find you like them better in a different environment

[altoclarinet123]

My band really isn't this way. We have approximately 100 people, including pit, colorguard, etc. But really everyone is friends in marching band unless you REALLY hate someone. The pit is slightly secluded, though, because they have different rehersal times (we rehearse with them, but ... I really don't know what they do...). We do hang out with our sections more, but we are a big family. I don't know, maybe I am just a freshman not noticing these things or maybe it is our new, young band directors (both under 30).