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Post by spacermase on Aug 17, 2009 22:58:22 GMT -5
So...my girlfriend just called to break up with me (nothing personal, apparently, she just couldn't handle the geographical distance between us). I'm still at band camp.
It kind of sucks.
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Post by NinjaBaker on Aug 17, 2009 23:23:08 GMT -5
^ *hugs for spacermase*
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Post by clarinetrox2012 on Aug 18, 2009 20:51:47 GMT -5
So...my girlfriend just called to break up with me (nothing personal, apparently, she just couldn't handle the geographical distance between us). I'm still at band camp. It kind of sucks. -hugs- Breakups suck...
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Post by spacermase on Aug 18, 2009 23:21:03 GMT -5
So...my girlfriend just called to break up with me (nothing personal, apparently, she just couldn't handle the geographical distance between us). I'm still at band camp. It kind of sucks. -hugs- Breakups suck... Thanks. I have to say though, I'm surprised how quickly I'm getting over it- I can only surmise that I've gotten really good at that, probably as a result of the 22 or so consecutive rejections I've received over the course of my college career. Being at band camp also helps, since there isn't much time to dwell on such things (well, except when we're running the pregame over and over and over again..that really sucked). The only thing that remains is what do I do now? This is the first real 'normal' break-up I've had, ever, so I don't really know what I should do (stay out of the dating scene for a while? Rebound? Hope she changes her mind?)
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Post by Greenepony on Aug 18, 2009 23:42:21 GMT -5
I would say try not date for a while. I have never known rebounds to go well. If she does change her mind then you won't be attached and you can actually look at the relationship with a level head and see if it worth giving it another go.
After my past breakups I almost always gave a 5 month break from dating, sometimes longer.
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Post by NinjaBaker on Aug 19, 2009 11:01:25 GMT -5
Hmm... thats a difficult question. I always claim I'm going to give it sometime between people, but sometimes things just don't pan out like that. Ideally, you do want to give yourself some time and space to pull things together. Generally, as Greenepony says, rebounds don't go well. You definitely need time to move on. that's a very very critical thing. and if she does happen to change her mind, you need to be able to think clearly and approach it fresh.
I've had all sorts of gaps between relationships. Pretty much, gaps of about a month and a half, 3 months and 2 years. it hasn't made *too* much of a difference in things, at least in my case. The way i figure, I'll just know when the time is right again.
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Post by Marine. on Aug 26, 2009 17:38:18 GMT -5
I would say try not date for a while. I have never known rebounds to go well. If she does change her mind then you won't be attached and you can actually look at the relationship with a level head and see if it worth giving it another go. After my past breakups I almost always gave a 5 month break from dating, sometimes longer. Rebounds around here go pretty well.....I'm getting married to one.
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$@M1K1N$!
Band Nerd
I'd rather be at band
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Post by $@M1K1N$! on Oct 11, 2009 17:57:33 GMT -5
my band director died trying to save a bus full of band kids.... im extremely depressed.
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Post by twirlgirl on Oct 27, 2009 17:17:15 GMT -5
my band director died trying to save a bus full of band kids.... im extremely depressed. I soooo sorry you need a special hug or what we call them at my band chris hug because he always gives them to us... All the bad news I have is I'm missing band practice right now because I'm "sick" and my mom wouldn't let me go to school and then not to practice... I feel fine
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Post by mthsbandrocks on Oct 30, 2009 10:23:10 GMT -5
I'm so stressed right now. Between missing the deadline for early action to UNR, trying to get other stuff together for college, just getting my SAT scores back [they improved, but they still aren't what i want them to be] and our band's state competition is on Saturday [as in, tomorrow] and we have been having bad practices for about three weeks. It's my senior year and our band has won state 7 out of the 8 years state has been going on for us, I don't want to lose my senior year. I'm just so stressed right now, the freshman aren't up to par on their marching and playing. I rant to my mom about how i feel about it and she doesn't understand. She was never in band. I just need a hug and someone to rant to, thanks guys.
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$@M1K1N$!
Band Nerd
I'd rather be at band
Posts: 149
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Post by $@M1K1N$! on Oct 31, 2009 17:13:45 GMT -5
*hugs* it's alright, things will get better, the sun will come up and u'll do amazing.
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Post by CaptainMo on Nov 9, 2009 19:25:23 GMT -5
*hugs*
My friend is sending me mixed signals about wether her likes me or not. It's tearing me up inside because he one of the first guys to treat me like another human being. Now, i'm wondering if there is anyone that could like me as more than a friend... probably not.
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Post by Lprdgecko on Mar 19, 2010 21:45:56 GMT -5
My boyfriend broke up with me today He was my first actual boyfriend (I dated another guy last year but that only lasted 3 weeks), my first kiss, I was his first girlfriend, his first kiss. A week from today would have been our one year "anniversary"... He said we can still be friends, which is good, but I am devastated.
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Post by ~*Not~a~Stalker~* on Mar 20, 2010 9:40:04 GMT -5
Lprdgecko....I'm so sorry. That really mega sucks. Super hugs from me.
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Post by Lprdgecko on Mar 20, 2010 12:48:09 GMT -5
Thanks Stalker.... I'm doing a little better today....
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